Grief Strikes Where Love Struck First

When someone we love dies, everything changes. The normalcies of routine possibly give an outward sense of balance, but the turmoil inside resembles wreckage. We sink, wish to remain sunk, everything around us seems trivial - almost as if we can see through the artifice of the world, unable to tell everyone how they were missing out on the most important things in life, as they fought over the the insignificant, the trivial.

And as is our wont as good people - we remember the good and the rest is subsumed in a closed vault inside our soul.

 

And I wonder - what is ever normal?

 

And I wonder about this connect of love, the dependence, the care, the thought, the absolute faith.

 

Are we emotional limpets to love? Do we grow stunted in love? Is care just an euphemism for dependence? Is the gift of attention a form of smothering?

Is what we call love just an emotional crutch?

 

When someone we love passes on, we can see our worlds contract, we see ourselves stand diminished, and we can suddenly see with incredible clarity how much we are an accumulation of all that we’ve now lost. In a strange way, we know we’ve become representatives of who and what’s lost, the protector of the flame.

 

And then we realize how love is always a completion. We come as sketches and it’s who we love who fill us with the colours which make our lives iridescent, and us a 3D rendition of life itself.

 

We are lucky if our beings have overflowed with a loved one's presence, cantankerous and problematic as they might have been, because deep inside every such relationship is the kernel of care, the warmth of which fills our life - it burns when it breathes, it glows like a flame when it’s gone.

 

If you liked this poem, consider listening to these other poems which talk of passing on  - 

• What Do I Leave Behind?
• The Final Goodbye (or why lovers decide to die together)
• An Epitaph Made of Light & Air

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The details of the music used in this episode are as follows -

The Long Travel to Terra Two by Kalak